Bénabou, Roland.

It Hurts To Ask / Roland Bénabou, Ania Jaroszewicz, George Loewenstein. - Cambridge, Mass. National Bureau of Economic Research 2022. - 1 online resource: illustrations (black and white); - NBER working paper series no. w30486 . - Working Paper Series (National Bureau of Economic Research) no. w30486. .

September 2022.

We analyze the offering, asking, and granting of help or other benefits as a three-stage game with bilateral private information between a person in need of help and a potential help-giver. Asking entails the risk of rejection, which can be painful: since unawareness of the need can no longer be an excuse, a refusal reveals that the person in need, or the relationship, is not valued very much. We show that a failure to ask can occur even when most helpers would help if told about the need, and that even though a greater need makes help both more valuable and more likely to be granted, it can reduce the propensity to ask. When potential helpers concerned about the recipient's ask-shyness can make spontaneous offers, this can be a double-edged sword: offering reveals a more caring type and helps solve the failure-to-ask problem, but not offering reveals a not-so-caring one, and this itself deters asking. This discouragement effect can also generate a trap where those in need hope for an offer while willing helpers hope for an ask, resulting in significant inefficiencies.




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Behavioral Microeconomics: Underlying Principles
Organizational Behavior • Transaction Costs • Property Rights
Altruism • Philanthropy • Intergenerational Transfers
Asymmetric and Private Information • Mechanism Design
Search • Learning • Information and Knowledge • Communication • Belief • Unawareness
Role and Effects of Psychological, Emotional, Social, and Cognitive Factors on Decision Making